This is one of the standard ‘scripts’ that I use with children when we’re working on behavior/rules/procedures.
This is posted in Classroom Management, but all the posts under Scripts are directly related to this.
The first day of school, and every day thereafter, I tell the children that if someone is doing something they don’t like, say “Please stop”. I also tell them that if someone asks them to please stop _________, they should stop.
There is magic in those words, because it gives the child the power to take care of a situation. As the year goes on, when a child comes to tell me what ________ did, I ask “Did you like that?” “No.” “What can you say?” (Child turns around to the offender) – “Please stop”. And 90% of the time that’s all it takes! I don’t have to solve it for them – they take care of it.